Before and After: Deb Tambor was raised as a member of the Skver Hasidim in upstate New York. She is pictured as she appeared before (left) and after leaving the group.
A New Square divorcée 33 year-old mother of 3 has committed suicide over on Yom Tov.
Her Name is Deborah Tambor, she was allegedly molested as a child by her uncle and when she told her Rabbi about the sexual abuse he accused her of lying and was exceedingly mean, her parents did not know of the molesting until after she broke down years later when she had already several kids and the marital problems started, then she left the New Square Community.
Bloggers are rallying around her, blaming her family for her death at 33. Apparently, Deb was involved in a bitter child custody battle with her ex husband. Bloggers say that her entire family and support network turned on her because she was no longer frum. Her children were poisoned against her and her own father testified against her at a child custody hearing.
Here was a woman who lost her children with the help of a judicial system so corrupted by the bloc votes.
Square leadership treated her horribly, allegedly heaping money and support on her ex-husband and demonizing Deb, all in order to make sure she did not get custody of or normal visitation with her children.
Square won that fight, but the demonizing of Deb did not stop. Instead, Square Rabbis and teachers worked to alienate her children from their mother. Square and her ex-husband knew about the sexual abuse and about Deb's depression and previous suicide attempt. What Square and Deb's ex-husband did to her was very likely to make her depression worse.
Eventually the pain of all of this became too great and Deb committed suicide. Many of her friends went to Rockland County for the funeral, which was delayed over and over and over again by Square – delayed until the those ex-haredi friends finally left in the very early hours of this morning, many hours after they arrived to mourn her.
She allegedly tried to kill herself once before, while she was still married and in New Square, the Rabbis and Deb's ex-husband bear significant responsibility for what happened.
Depressive illness is one of the common problems that come from sexual abuse.
Just recently, Yoeli Spielman, a young man who was shunned by his community, also reportedly committed suicide right after Yom Kippur.